Parenthood can test the strength of many relationships. According to Psychology Today, numerous studies show a decline in marital satisfaction for new parents. Couples often find themselves arguing about money, disappointed in losing their freedom and spontaneity, and too exhausted for any type of intimacy. However, it’s important to open the lines of communication and have patience with each other as you adjust to your new roles as parents. With these helpful tips, you can reconnect with your partner or spouse and still have time for your little one.
**Emily Graham is the creator of MightyMoms.net which offers a wide range of info tailored for busy moms — from how to reduce stress to creative ways to spend time together as a family. She believes being a mom is one of the hardest jobs around and wanted to create a support system for moms from all walks of life.**
How to Ease the Relationship Challenges New Parents Face
Call a Meeting
For the first several months after your baby is born, it might seem like you and your partner rarely see each other. And when you do, it’s all about the baby. Although it’s great that your wee one is your top priority, there are other things in your life that matter too. So, make arrangements to have a brief meeting once a week over coffee in the kitchen or a glass of wine before bed to get on the same page about finances, household chores, doctor’s appointments, and other family issues. If you take a few minutes to talk about these things once a week, you won’t find yourself bickering about them later. Talking about these things at your meeting will also allow your date nights to be free of these types of discussions.
Schedule Date Night
Speaking of date night, it’s important to make plans with each other once a week as a couple if possible. Date night doesn’t necessarily mean getting a babysitter and going out on the town (though that’s great, if you can swing it). As Kindred Bravely explains, a date night — even at home after the baby’s in bed — can give you the opportunity to spend time together and strengthen your bond. Ordering takeout and snuggling on the couch while watching a movie is a simple date night idea that will help you stay connected with your partner. Put date night on your calendar and treat it as a regular appointment; don’t cancel unless your really must.
Give Each Other a Break
You are both really tired, so give each other a day off. Plan one Saturday a month where your partner is completely free of any baby duties. Then, they should reciprocate on another day where you can have a baby-free day off. This type of “me time” will allow you to sleep in and then handle your errands, relax with a pedicure, or just veg out on the couch binge-watching Netflix. A true break will give you the opportunity to recharge your batteries, and you’ll find yourself becoming a happier and healthier parent and partner.
Meld Your Parenting Styles
According to Verywell Family, couples often disagree on parenting choices. Maybe you think the baby should nap on a specific schedule every day, while your partner firmly believes the nap schedule should be more flexible. Instead of arguing, you need to communicate and negotiate with each other to figure out what’s best for your family. Try your best to avoid criticizing and playing the blame game. If you begin to repeatedly argue about how to raise your baby, don’t snap at each other all the time or start to feel resentful. Instead, Everyday Health recommends taking a parenting class or seeing a counselor to learn how to meld your parenting styles.
Final Thoughts On Relationship Challenges New Parents Face
Having a baby is wonderful, but becoming new parents can also be exhausting and damaging to your relationship as a couple. A lack of sleep, little or no sex, and conflicts over parenting strategies and other issues can leave new parents feeling disconnected and drained. According to the American Psychological Association, if you are not satisfied with your relationship with your partner, it can also have negative mental health consequences on your children. However, by communicating openly and carving out couple time, you’ll be able to build an even stronger relationship and become the best parents you can be.
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