It might seem strange to allow yourself to be happy but you deserve it. When there is so much going on, we forget about the small stuff that brings joy. Worrying about things that have been, might be, or are going on can mean that we aren’t letting ourselves be happy. Or, it might be that if we allow ourselves happiness, something might happen to take it away. Other times, it is that we don’t deserve it.
The truth is that allowing yourself to be happy is an act of self-love and nurturing. You deserve to be joyful even in the worst circumstances, no matter what you have or will do.
How to Allow Yourself to Be Happy
Breakdown the barriers
There is so much bad news that it can be hard to be happy when something in the world is upsetting and horrific. It is important to remember that you can be happy while recognizing and understanding the plight of others.
Consider if you have put up barriers that stop you from allowing yourself to feel content or happy. It can be small things like you are in overwhelming situations, and you think you shouldn’t feel happy.
Or it might be that you are still building your confidence and trying to get to a point where you feel comfortable expressing your happiness. For some people, it is about their appearance and how it makes them feel. For example, a ‘too loud laugh’ or being worried about their teeth and smile. The truth is, though, the people who love you will love your laugh, and anything to do with your smile can be fixed with restorative dentistry.
Is it a problem, or does it just feel like one?
There are times when something happens, and we feel overwhelmed. But after the initial information or incident, sometimes it’s not a big problem. The reaction was just how we felt about it at the moment. By taking a step back and looking at the situation, we often find that it wasn’t as worrisome as we initially thought.
Perhaps it isn’t a single incident or thing; it is always the same thing that triggers a response in you. It is essential to step back and think about why this thing triggers you. You should also consider what you can do about it.
Celebrate the small
We are often so focused on the big and exciting things that we forget there are smaller things to celebrate. All of these little milestones give us a flood of dopamine.
The more we are happy with the small accomplishments, the easier it is to achieve the big things. Plus, you’ll find you get happiness from all of the little things. There are small wins every day, and you should take them and cherish them.
Hiding our lights
One common reason people don’t allow themselves to be happy is that they are worried about being in the spotlight. They don’t want to let their accomplishments and achievements shine.
This mindset makes us attempt to make ourselves smaller so that we don’t outshine those around us. If the people around you don’t support you, change your group. You need to find people who want to see you shine and will shine right along with you.
Allow Yourself to Be Happy
Following this advice can help you allow yourself to be happy. Above all else, practice self-care regularly. If you need some tips to take better care of yourself, click here: 19 Practical Self Care and Me Time Ideas For Adults.
