So, life has changed drastically for most of us in the last month. At our house, this means we have five kids at home while I’m also trying to work from home. I hate to admit it, but that leads to way too much screen time for the kids.
My mom guilt has been eating at me every time I see the kids with a tablet or a video game controller in their hand. Even worse, when I’ve witnessed them sitting on the couch for 2 hours straight staring at the TV.
I know that their life could definitely be worse. I just can’t help thinking of all the memories they are missing out on when they’re constantly getting screen time.
The Struggle
When you’re working from home, there is no super simple solution for keeping your kids occupied. They constantly interrupt, need something, or just begin fighting in the other room. I ignore it as much as I can, but it’s not always possible.
This is when I find myself saying, “do you want to watch YouTube?” or “here, play Talking Tom”. Otherwise, I just simply pass the tablet over without a second thought.
While this struggle is hard to overcome, it’s isn’t impossible. Plus, once you get it figured out, it’s even easier than passing the tablet over.
Pros and Cons of Screen Time For Kids
Don’t get me wrong, there are MANY good things about electronics for children. There are even more bad things, however, if we don’t play our cards right.
Benefits of Screen Time For Kids
- Encourages engaging writing (it’s easier for them to get the words out when typing)
- Can be used as a tool for communication or school work
- It can be educational
- Children can learn responsibility if they have set tasks they have to do BEFORE getting their screen time
- They can play with friends
Cons
- Can lead to obesity
- Causes a lack of sleep
- It leads to lower grades in school
- Increases the chance of behavior issues
- Connected to mental health issues in children
- Causes eye strain and headaches
- It makes children irritable
- Prevents the development of proper social skills
What We Can Do When Our Kids Have Too Much Screen Time
1. Set an example.
Kids aren’t the only ones who spend so much time staring at screens. As parents, we do it, too. Of course, if you’re working from home it may be unavoidable at times.
If you’re not working, though, try to be more aware of your screen usage. Children learn from example, and they watch us way more than we think.
2. Give them a screen time limit.
Make sure your kids know they’ll still get to watch their favorite videos and play their favorite games. The only change is that they have a time limit. This will help with the transition.
Give them a 10 and
Plus, it reduces the chances of a melt-down. These melt-downs can be pretty tragic. Especially if the child feels they had no warning before having the device ripped from their hands.
3. Be upfront about the dangers of too much screen time.
Kids do hear what we tell them. Depending on their age, they may be able to understand why screen time rules have to change.
4. Don’t allow screens at certain times or in certain areas.
At our house, there is no screen time at dinnertime. The littles aren’t allowed to have
I’d have that same bedroom rule for the big kids, but they already had TV’s in their rooms when I moved in. My husband knew from the beginning that I wasn’t at a fan of that, but I wasn’t moving in to change their life-long rules so the TV’s stayed.
The big kids aren’t allowed to have their phones at bedtime on school nights, either. We actually have a cell phone contract that they have to follow.
You can make whatever rules are appropriate for your home. Everyone’s rules will be different.
5. Let your children know about the change ahead of time.
You shouldn’t just wake up one day and enforce new rules that yours kids have never heard of. They need time to get used to this idea. So, maybe tell them that after the weekend, the rules for screen-time will be changing.
6. Put it away where they can’t see it.
We’ve all heard the saying “out of sight, out of mind”, right? Well, think of that when screen time isn’t allowed. If your kids can see their device, they’re going to ask for it.
Asking for it and being told ‘no’ will cause a melt down. I promise it’ll be better to hide it until it’s time.
7. Play with them.
Ok, so I know you’re busy. But, when your kids will not stop interrupting you, something has to be done.
Don’t cave on the tablet unless it’s 100% necessary. Instead, take a 10-minute break to do a quick activity with your kiddo. Get them started on something fun, then get back to your work.
That little bit of time will make both of you happier. You can play Barbie’s, Lego’s, or anything else that you know your child will continue doing after you stop.
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Screen-Free Activities For Kids
These activities can mostly be done on their own. You may have to do prep work for some of these independent activities for kids, but that’s about it.
- Play soccer or basketball outside
- Play catch with a family member or neighborhood friend
- Blow up some balloons to play catch with or to smack around
- Write or color with sidewalk chalk
- Blow bubbles – Try this dinosaur bubble gun
- Build with legos
- Play with a deck of cards
- Use play-doh
- Color
- Play Barbie’s or superheroes with a parent
- Explore a sensory table or bucket
- Play with the family pets
- Make up a dance to your favorite song
- Create a card for a loved one
- Put beads on pipe cleaners to make jewelry
- Play “The Floor is Lava”
- Create an obstacle course
- Make paper airplanes
Play school or doctor- Build a fort
- Play with empty boxes
- Do a puzzle
- Make a collage from old magazines
- Play dress up
Too Much Screen Time? It’s Not Too Late
I’m the first parent to admit that my kids get too much screen time. I’m working to alleviate this issue, though, and so far it seems to be working!
Are you having the same problem? Do you have any tips? Leave a comment and let me know!
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Aww I’m happy to hear that! How did your father come across it?
It is so tough to find the right balance during these times. Thanks for giving some realistic pros and cons.
You’re welcome! Thanks for commenting!
I feel like that “crazy mom” that can not let her kids have screens. Even TV! I have differently wired kiddos and my son with anxiety cannot handle screens. It wreaks so much havoc on his autonomic nervous system. We have been doing twice a week but I think we need to drop it even more. Thank you for all these tips! What I’ve found is the less they get screens, the more creative they become. Right now, I have two kids building a world with bristle blocks and pipe building toys and another who is creating an intricate jet out of paper!
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Yes, I agree that they become more creative. It’s like the screens make it so they don’t think. Without the screens they have so many great ideas! Thanks for commenting.
Great tips. It’s definitely a struggle when working from home to keep my kid off his tablet when I need quiet time.
Same here! It’s so hard, but it’s possible!
Thank you so much, I love this post! I’m new to the parenting world, as I just became a stepmom to two little boys. I’ve been utilizing a few of the things you mentioned like chalk, bubbles, coloring etc. but I’m anxious to use some of the tools you mentioned to help them better understand why we don’t want them staring at screens all day long.
How old are the boys? I became a step mom of 2 when I was 22, so I totally get feeling “thrown in” to parenting LOL. I hope these ideas help!
You had me at “…5 kids and working from home” because I’m in the exact same situation. Also tough is that since they are doing “distance learning”, they need to be on the screen for a good part of the day and I’m constantly checking in to see if its school screen time or just play. But then I see myself, and I’m on my computer most of the day for work so that is what they see. Since the beginning of our quarantine, I put out a huge pile of arts and crafts and just told them to go for it but I find that I need to get them started. Anyhow, your post is really helpful! Thank you!
Same here!! I want to defend myself by telling them I’m working, but so are they (sometimes lol). Thanks for commenting!